An archive of posts from the Tumblr blog beyond-mogai-pride-flags
There’s only flags for male-aligned (solarian in galactian gender alignment systems):
There isn’t one for mathkin or formulakin (these are new terms). ~ ap
Plurigender people can be fluid, but not monogenderfluid. Multigender encompasses gendeefluid even if it’s monofluidness. Polygenderstill people, whose gender is static are considered plurigender and multigender. But pluriness doesn’t necessarily mean static, you can fluctuate between bigender to trigender to another form of trigender (androgyne or male-female to ambonec to enboy) for example, that would be plurigenderfluid (or multigenderfluid). I’m pluripangender/panplurigender myself. See also plugender and equilibriogender. ~ ap
Flaregender: A gender that evolves from a connection to heat or fire.
Thanks for the submission!
-Fy
I guess it could be maveriquefluix, aporaliquid or flexgenderflor (flexflor, daeflux or florflux) [flexgender is another word for genderflux and genderliquid for fluidflux].
Genderflor or genderdae: a fluid identity that never encompasses feeling feminine or masculine. Counterpart to genderfaun/genderfae.
Aporagender: a nonbinary gender identity and umbrella term for gender(s) separate from male, female and anything in between (unlike androgyne) while still having a very strong and specific gendered feeling. See also: aliagender and aingender.
Maverique: an identity that is not the absence of gender, or an apathy towards gender, but a present feeling of gender. This feeling of gender is completely independent from male, female, neutral, or anything derived from any of them.
You can also try searching for gender alignments, I’d suggest singularian, stelarian and aurorian (unaligned, nb-aligned and fluid-aligned). ~ ap
Nonunary or nonprimary: any gender identity which does not fit, fully or solely, within the unary/primary gender within your culture all the time.
In many cultures the unary gender is binary wergender (male/man/boy) and/or masculine, so nonunary would be nonboy/manless/maledissident, but in some cultures there aren’t unary gender, it’s just binary, trinary, quadrinary or quinary for example, due to gender equality, third-genders, culture specific identities, etc. We are not trying to say female is always the secondary gender or reinforce gender hierarchy, it was based on the book The Second Sex from Simone Beauvoir. ~ ap
Eevegender: When you feel your gender could evolve into something different based on what or where you may be in the future.
You’ll notice some fairly dramatic changes from the initial 2017 survey, including a more traditional agree/disagree scale, randomized question order within each section, a greater number of shorter sections, and a more thorough explanation of how data is being used after collection.
Another significant change: all demographics questions are now optional. The only mandatory questions are those regarding how you want your data handled.
Demographics are also considerably more detailed than last year. In particular, the highly requested autistic and disabled trends will now be easier to identify.
Again, all demographics questions are optional.
We highly encourage you to crosspost this survey to any platforms you like.
This includes forums, reddit, chat groups, twitter, social media, youtube, so on and so forth. You are welcome to spread this link far and wide. We will be doing our best to crosspost everywhere we can, but we’re only 6 people. There’s only so far we can reach.
As with last year, data will be compiled and released at 100, 250, 500, and 1000 respondents, then every additional 1000 respondents.
This survey will be closed at either 15,000 respondents or 31 December 2018, whichever comes first. Until the survey is closed, you are welcome to edit or delete your responses at any time.
As of this posting, the 2017 survey has been closed.
Awesome! Omnikingender: when one has so many kintypes that, as a result, their gender is messy and complicated, as well as deeply tied one’s kin identities.
I actually haven’t heard of anything like that that’s been coined yet, but I think that’s a great idea! I think all of those names are good possibilities, what does everyone else think?
Wanting to be in a relationship but not feeling that type of attraction, as well as being scared of relationships due to being (or relating to being) neuroatypical, neurodiverse, or mentally ill. A combination of Neuroa- and Cupio-. Named after the Kuiper asteroid belt.
The colour of the neurodivergent symbol can be replaced with the relevant attraction colour (e.g. blue for alterous). The flag with the two-coloured symbol has the colours of the Cupio- flag to represent that, but I thought is also handy for editing it to be a Kuipian Queerplatonic flag 🙂
Wanting to be in a relationship but not feeling that type of attraction, as well as being scared of relationships due to being (or relating to being) neuroatypical, neurodiverse, or mentally ill. A combination of Neuroa- and Cupio-. Named after the Kuiper asteroid belt.
The colour of the neurodivergent symbol can be replaced with the relevant attraction colour (e.g. blue for alterous). The flag with the two-coloured symbol has the colours of the Cupio- flag to represent that, but I thought is also handy for editing it to be a Kuipian Queerplatonic flag 🙂
😀 Its not always easy, but we do this ‘cause its so much fun and its worth it to see these messages from those like you! We plan on being around for awhile, though, don’t you worry. 🙂
Another year has come and gone, and Beyond MOGAI Pride Flags is now 2 years old! This year was even better than the last, we’ve made SO many flags and coined so many new labels for identities and its all thanks to all of our wonderful followers!
This blog continues to grow as more and more people discover their identity and want some way to be able to show that. The amount of symbols and flags I’ve seen around this year is just amazing and I honestly love all of it so much. The desire to create symbols for your personal identity, no matter how small or seemingly trivial, is just really great to witness.
This year we have even more mods helping make flags and coin identities. And we have nearly 3.5k followers! That’s more than 2 times more than we had this time last year!
Let’s make it another year, and create and design even more!
Lesbianflexible (female-leaning anisoattractional): feeling attraction to women (you also identify as one) but flexible in its identity. A lesbiflexible individual can be genderfluid and/or rarely attracted to other gender(s) than woman.
ATRIN, or Atrinary In Nature, is a term for individuals whose gender encompasses all types of gender that do not fall into the gender trinary (masc, fem, neutral/nonbinary). Examples of atrinary genders would be aporagender, maverique, or comgender.
The basic component of an atrinary gender is that it does not feel masculine, feminine, neutral, or void of gender in any way, while still having a gendered feeling. It falls outside the nonbinary spectrum in that it goes outside the nonbinary concept (nonbinary = not male/masc or female/fem). Nonbinary gender feelings are called ‘neutral,’ though this isn’t always a suitable description. (Neutral can mean ‘not either masculine or feminine,’ or can mean ‘muted but still present’ or ‘undefined’.) Lack of gender feelings (agender spectrum) also falls under nonbinary.
Atrinary genders are not aligned to male, female, or neutral, and are not absent of gender feeling. Instead they have their own alignment all to themselves, and can be defined in many different ways. I’d say neurogenders and xenogenders fall into this umbrella but I feel that’s up to the person and I might be misunderstanding the concept of those two groups. (At least, I feel neurogenders and xenogenders don’t inherently have a masculine, feminine, neutral or empty gender energy the same way male/female/nonbinary genders do, but CAN have them, depending on the person.)
A good idea of this would be maverique, which is a gender that has no alignment whatsoever, but still has conviction, pride and its own power, a gender that is strong and defies the manner of gender in its traditional concepts. It’s not masculine, or feminine, or neutral, and it’s the opposite of agender entirely. The gender has its own method of expression, which can be of any energy type – orderly, happy, aggressive, high energy, low energy, wild, empowering – you get the idea. (I hope.)
So back on topic, someone who is Atrin experiences all genders that are (or their gender just in general is) outside the atrinary spectrum. How their gender expresses itself is different for each individual and can only be defined by them.
Since pluaric anon didn’t want my flags to be on their flags because of our different views, i remade them! in order, it’s Equipluaric, polypluaric and monogopluaric! @beyond-mogai-pride-flags@diamornd-dust
Love me some term coiners who are respectful to each others’ different views. 😀
So you could use something like homofictosexual/romantic for your sexual and romantic attraction (although how you described it works great, too!) As for your QPP, you could use panplatonic or panqueerplatonic to describe that!
Bi-pan or Pan-bi: identifying as bi- and pan-, as if both terms fit you; amplusic individuals fluctuating between bi and pan identities; a varioriented or otherwise split oriented person with pan- and bi- orientations. Bipan pluralians can also be panflexible / biflexible, leaning towards a specific identity.
Polypluaric – In a relationship with a system in a way that feels polyamorus.
Thanks for all the submissions! 😀
-Fy
Monogopluraric – In a relationship with a system in a way that seems monogamous, like with a median system.
Thanks for the submission!
-Fy
Equipluaric – – in a relationship where all members are involved, either in pairs, constellations, or as a group; note that it doesn’t not all need to be the same manner of relationship, though one could at a suffix to specify all sexual, all romantic, etc.
Lovely! Thank you for the submission!
-Fy
Circumpluaric – Relationships or attractions between a system and an individual/singlet.
Nice! Thanks for the submission!
-Fy
Interpluaric – Relationships and attractions between systems.
Thanks for the submission!
-Fy
Intrapluaric – relationships and attractions within a system.
Awesome! Thanks for submitting!
-Fy
systemromantic – Only being romantically attracted to those in DID/OSDD systems.
((crap can you submit this one instead? the old one was mildly offcenter. sorry!!!))
Ply-Pan or Pan-poly: identifying as poly- and pan-, as if both terms fit you; amplusic individuals fluctuating between ply and pan identities; a varioriented or otherwise split oriented person with pan- and poly- orientations. Panply pluralians can also be panflexible / polyflexible, leaning towards a specific identity.
Comparable to neutrois, there is no one definition of nulltrois, the most common ones are:
Null-gender / gender-null
Gender nullity
Zerogender
Gender-free / genderfree
Ambitrois of Negative × Positive
Mnioct / mniogender
Voidgender / gendervoid
Genderhollow / genderempty
Basically nulltrois was coined to include these identities in the leptrois spectrum (that is neutrois, negatrois, positrois, nulltrois and penultrois).
The combination of positrois and (th)eir respective negatrois gender(s) can be called negapositrois, zerotrois or posinegatrois, more specifically saying while nulltrois encompasses it all. And the pantrois/omnitrois of negatrois and positrois (pannegatrois×panpositrois or pangender zerotrois) lightrois or infinitrois.
Some nulltrois people may interpret their gender-nullity as xenogender and/or neurogender. ~ ap
i coined a gender! this is the gender of both me and my queerplatonic partner (we both happen to be the same gender) and we wanted to have name for it since one didn’t really exist.
so, here it is.
enbyfluid: a gender that can change to any gender (like genderfluid) except binary genders. so an enbyfluid person could be agender, neutrois, demiboy, nonbinary, pangender etc. but never male or female. enbyfluid people can use any pronouns.
i hope that some of you can identify with this. here is the color symbolism:
purple: gender neutrality
blue: fluidity in general
green: being outside of the gender binary
orange: endurance, because we’re strong as hell
black: an absence of gender
here is the square version for all your pfp needs friends ❤
Bi-Poly or Ply-Bi: identifying as poly- and bi-, as if both terms fit you; amplusic individuals fluctuating between ply and bi identities; a varioriented or otherwise split oriented person with bi- and poly- orientations. Polybi pluralians can also be biflexible / polyflexible, leaning towards a specific identity.
Bi-Poly-Pan, Pan-Bi-Poly or Poly-Bi-Pan: identifying as poly-, bi- and pan-, as if all of their definitions fit you; amplusic individuals fluctuating between ply, bi and pan identities; a varioriented or otherwise split oriented person with bi-, poly- and pan- orientations. Pan-bi-ply pluralians can also be panflexible, biflexible and/or polyflexible, leaning towards specific identities.
Based on Bi+Pan and Poly+Pan flags. This flag can also stands for bi/ply/pan solidarity, within m-spec and pluralian community. ~ ap
Basically all your kintypes are involved with your gender. Not that everything you can kin is your gender, that’d be AllKinGender. (Someone else coin that.)
Hey thanks! 🙂 Its not always about agreeing, really, but being respectful of others regardless of whether you agree or understand. And while we do often get a lot of hate, running this blog for almost two years has actually really helped with deal with it. Its not as big a deal for me to handle as it used to be. But I appreciate the kind message. 😀
Hey man, I actually do go to school. I also work. I like to take nice walks along this trail in a forest not far from where I live. Sometimes I go with a friend, but sometimes its nice to just walk the trail myself and enjoy the scenery.
Its almost like I’m an actual person that you know nothing about and not the caricature you’ve made me out to be.
Bisexual: Describes a person who feels sexual attraction to their own gender and other genders, or to a person who feels attraction to two or more genders. This flag variation is for people who are bi but have a stronger attraction, or preference to men or masculine people.
Demigirl: a gender identity that feels partially like a girl/woman, and partially like some other gender.
[Image description: On the left, a venus symbol with an asterisk inside the circle. On the right, a mars symbol with an asterisk inside the circle. End image description.]
Nonbinary woman and nonbinary man symbols!
I was talking to a friend (who is a NB man) about how NB men & women have symbols that are indistinguishable from man/NB and woman/NB bigender people, even though there are other ways of being a nonbinary man or woman. I made these and my friend liked it, so I’m posting here now. Enjoy!
[Image description: On the left, a venus symbol with an asterisk inside the circle. On the right, a mars symbol with an asterisk inside the circle. End image description.]
Nonbinary woman and nonbinary man symbols!
I was talking to a friend (who is a NB man) about how NB men & women have symbols that are indistinguishable from man/NB and woman/NB bigender people, even though there are other ways of being a nonbinary man or woman. I made these and my friend liked it, so I’m posting here now. Enjoy!
Mala-: An orientation which is created or influenced by maladaptive daydreaming or fantasy prone personalities. For example a Malasexual person might feel pansexual usually but may feel more asexual during a maladaptive daydreaming episode. An orientation specific to people who experience maladaptive daydreaming due to a neurodivergence.
I usually look up different meanings for different colors. So if you’re looking for a color that stands for “hope”, for example, then I look up “colors that represent hope” or something like that.
XETXE or XTX (xenogender-to-xenogender): xenogender individuals who considers themselves as transitioning from xenogender to xenogender, as they have always been xenogender.
Third-gender (sometimes third sex) is a subjective, empiricist and polysemic identity, because it encompasses many experiences, only third-gender people are able to describe themselves what third-genderness means. Sometimes these terms are more used in anthropology and sociology to classify the non-Western identity concepts, nonbinary categorizations
and the terminology colonialists used to pathologize traditional genders, and gender roles, that can be reclaimed by some people today. Third-gender sometimes can be outside the binary logic, adherently binary and/or neither (as in anonbinary).
Identities like Bissu, Fa’afafine, Fakaleiti, Hijra, Māhū, Muxe, Takatāpui, Travestigender, Two-spirit and X-gender have all been referred to as third genders and people with cultural identities such as these can choose to reclaim the term for their own personal use, but don’t call someone with a cultural identity third gender without asking. It has also a symbol. ~ ap
FTT or F2T (female to third-gender): a third-gender individual who considers emself as transitioning from female to third-gender. Can also mean female-to-travesti or female-to-twospirit.
Note: this terminology was firstly started by transphobes acting as trans people couldn’t use MtF/FtM/BtB/FtF/MtM but it’s being reappropriated by the community since some people found it useful. ~ ap
MTT or M2T (male to third-gender): a third-gender individual who considers emself as transitioning from male to third-gender. Can also mean male-to-travesti or male-to-twospirit.
Note: this terminology was firstly started by transphobes acting as trans people couldn’t use MtF/FtM/BtB/FtF/MtM but it’s being reappropriated by the community since some people found it useful. ~ ap
omigosh I saw the request that @mogai-ringo made and I really wanna submit some flags I made!!
this is the Fujoshi flag (I didnt make this one)
this is the Fudanshi or Fukei flag (I made this one!!)
and this is the Fujin flag! (I also made this one!!!)
third-gender): third-gender individuals who considers themselves as transitioning from third-gender to third-gender, as they have always been third-gender.
TTT can also mean travesti-to-travesti or twospirit-to-twospirit. ~ ap
So Zerogender is a gender or group of genders nullified when combined with its/their respective antigender(s). Pangender is where someone experiences all genders they possibly can. Combining these means that the person experiences all of these genders, along with their respective antigenders.
Brothaboy/Brotherboy: a transmasculine gender identity; for use by Indigenous Australians and Torres Strait Islanders only.
Demigender: A gender identity that feels partially like one gender and partially like some other (usually non-identified nonbinary) gender. So, for instance, someone can be a demiboy, and feel partially like a boy but partially not.
Sistagirl/Sistergirl: a transfeminine gender identity; for use by Indigenous Australians and Torres Strait Islanders only.
Demigender: A gender identity that feels partially like one gender and partially like some other (usually non-identified nonbinary) gender. So, for instance, someone can be a demiboy, and feel partially like a boy but partially not.
Aego- or Autochoris-: An orientation that is centered around people other than yourself. When you enjoy the idea of a particular kind of attraction, or when that attraction is being experienced by other people, but do not experience it yourself. See also: video- and limno-.
Pan-: feeling attraction to every gender; gender-blind attraction, regardless of gender. See also: omni- and cin-.
They do seem pretty similar, don’t they? If you were to imagine a scale between asexual and allosexual, I think esthesiosexual would be close to allosexual than juxtasexual would be. That’s how it appears to be from comparing the definitions.
Girlby, Galby or Womanby (enby girl): polygender/gendervast of nonbinary and woman; a female-aligned (lunarian) nonbinary woman; a multigirl who has abinary gender(s), e.g. a maverique gurl, a gxrl (agender girl) or a neufemale (neutrois female).
Xirl: identifying in some as a nonbinary girl or nonbinary girl-adjacent. Someone who identifies with some part of woman/girlhood but who wants a more nonbinary and neutral sounding word because they aren’t entirely girls or don’t want to be associated with the typical ideas brought up by the word “girl”. See also: girlby, xengirl, femby and gxrl.
Lesbian: an homoattractional woman; a woman, or otherwise antiboy/nonboy, attracted to women. See also: sapphic.
Xirl flag with this Lesbian Glitch Heart. They can be lesbian independently if it’s a partial or complete womanhood, regardless of her/eir gender alignment. Some abinary/unaligned enbies still can feel connection to lesbianness/lesbianhood, as if they love women like women do. ~ ap
Grey-aroace or Gray-aroace: greyromantic greysexual or grayromantic graysexual individuals; being between aromantic asexual and zedromantic zedsexual (zromantic zsexual or alloromantic allosexual); feeling attraction rarely, vaguely, or weakly; experiencing attraction, but not desire the type of relationship associated with that type of attraction; umbrella term for every aroacespec orientation in grey area.
Grey-aroace or Gray-aroace: greyromantic greysexual or grayromantic graysexual individuals; being between aromantic asexual and zedromantic zedsexual (zromantic zsexual or alloromantic allosexual); feeling attraction rarely, vaguely, or weakly; experiencing attraction, but not desire the type of relationship associated with that type of attraction; umbrella term for every aroacespec orientation in grey area.
♣️) is a slang for grey-aroace, greyasexual and greyromantic people (gray-aroaces, grayromantix and grayasexuals).
Gray-A- or Grey-A-: being between a- and zed-/allo- (asexual/aromantic/etc and zedsexual/zedromantic/etc); feeling attraction rarely, vaguely, or weakly; experiencing attraction, but not desire the type of relationship associated with that type of attraction; umbrella term for every aspec orientation in grey area.
Bigender: having two distinct gender identities, either at the same time, or at different times.
Juxera: A gender relative to female, but is something separate and entirely on it’s own.
Proxvir: A gender relative to male, but is something separate and entirely on it’s own.
I think we can also call it bijuvir ~ ap
Yo I have a question for the followers- so I got a binder a year ago from my friend and it’s been a lifesaver, but recently it’s been getting very Ow to wear. Like it’s got these little plastic rods lining the inside, and the fabric ripped at the ends of them so the tips have been digging in and cutting my skin- any suggestions on what to do?? Getting a new one is not an option in my current situation.
[someone] loving [someone] chart for w/m/nb identities!
I also made a version without repeating the labels, based on a version @jynto made before:
I am also working on a text-only version, however since it’s taking too long to make, I will put it on a separate post/reblog.
I’m going to copy/paste the how to use and the Q&A from the original version here:
How to use:
1) Think about what your gender entails. For example, nonbinary woman.
2)
Go to the line or one of the lines that specifies the gender you have.
For nonbinary woman, you can go to nonbinary > woman or to woman >
nonbinary. Both lines are the same.
3) Think about what your
gender-based attraction or what you want to reveal about it entails. For
example, nonbinary people and women.
4) Look for the column or
columns that specify that attraction. In this case, again, you’ll have
to look for either the nonbinary > woman column or the woman >
nonbinary column.
5) See where the line and column cross! In this example, it should be iridian (nblnb, nblw, wlnb and wlw).
Remember
you can use broader labels too! So if you are iridian, for instance,
you can also use sapphic, enbian, and so on, if you want.
But how can you be both nonbinary and a man/a woman/a man and a woman?
Some nonbinary people may consider themselves one or both binary genders besides being nonbinary because:
They have multiple genders (at the same time or not), and one or some of them are binary or binary-adjacent; (examples:
a person is trigender and their genders are man, woman and neutrois, or
a person is genderfluid and their gender changes between agender and
woman)
They have a single gender connected to one or both binary genders even if those genders aren’t binary; (examples:
a person has a single gender that is a mix of maverique and woman, or a
person is a proxvir, which means they have a gender similar to man but
different in some way)
They have a certain
connection to one or both binary genders because of presentation,
pronouns/titles, desired transition, or other characteristics. (examples:
a person is agender but doesn’t mind being treated as a man in general,
or a person is dulcigender but has a connection to being a woman for
desiring a physical transition similar to a trans woman)
But how can you be both a man and a woman without being nonbinary?
A
nonbinary person may consider themselves both a man and a woman and
prefer an identity that only talks about them being both a man and a
woman.
A person who is both a man and a woman may also not want to identify as nonbinary for any reason.
But all those labels are too complicated/hard to remember! Why not just use ____?
You
may not use them if you don’t want to, but there are obviously people
who want to use those more specific labels, or otherwise there wouldn’t be so much of
them.
* this version is “final” because all slots are taken. However, if there are changes I deem important enough, I may make other versions of this.
[someone] loving [someone] chart for w/m/nb identities!
I also made a version without repeating the labels, based on a version @jynto made before:
I am also working on a text-only version, however since it’s taking too long to make, I will put it on a separate post/reblog.
I’m going to copy/paste the how to use and the Q&A from the original version here:
How to use:
1) Think about what your gender entails. For example, nonbinary woman.
2)
Go to the line or one of the lines that specifies the gender you have.
For nonbinary woman, you can go to nonbinary > woman or to woman >
nonbinary. Both lines are the same.
3) Think about what your
gender-based attraction or what you want to reveal about it entails. For
example, nonbinary people and women.
4) Look for the column or
columns that specify that attraction. In this case, again, you’ll have
to look for either the nonbinary > woman column or the woman >
nonbinary column.
5) See where the line and column cross! In this example, it should be iridian (nblnb, nblw, wlnb and wlw).
Remember
you can use broader labels too! So if you are iridian, for instance,
you can also use sapphic, enbian, and so on, if you want.
But how can you be both nonbinary and a man/a woman/a man and a woman?
Some nonbinary people may consider themselves one or both binary genders besides being nonbinary because:
They have multiple genders (at the same time or not), and one or some of them are binary or binary-adjacent; (examples:
a person is trigender and their genders are man, woman and neutrois, or
a person is genderfluid and their gender changes between agender and
woman)
They have a single gender connected to one or both binary genders even if those genders aren’t binary; (examples:
a person has a single gender that is a mix of maverique and woman, or a
person is a proxvir, which means they have a gender similar to man but
different in some way)
They have a certain
connection to one or both binary genders because of presentation,
pronouns/titles, desired transition, or other characteristics. (examples:
a person is agender but doesn’t mind being treated as a man in general,
or a person is dulcigender but has a connection to being a woman for
desiring a physical transition similar to a trans woman)
But how can you be both a man and a woman without being nonbinary?
A
nonbinary person may consider themselves both a man and a woman and
prefer an identity that only talks about them being both a man and a
woman.
A person who is both a man and a woman may also not want to identify as nonbinary for any reason.
But all those labels are too complicated/hard to remember! Why not just use ____?
You
may not use them if you don’t want to, but there are obviously people
who want to use those more specific labels, or otherwise there wouldn’t be so much of
them.
* this version is “final” because all slots are taken. However, if there are changes I deem important enough, I may make other versions of this.
Whoo! Love it!!
-Fy
Toygender: a gender that feels like a miniature simplified “toy” replica of real gender; alternately, a gender identity that feels connected to toys or a toy aesthetic in some way.
Ft. a less bright version for accessibility and a totally eyebleedy version for my own aesthetic sensibilities.
Thank you for the submissions! Including the non-eyebleedy one lol @-@
Perhaps someone with a gender related to size can answer? I personally don’t experience such a gender, so I wouldn’t be very good at trying to explain.
That seems a bit tricky. Someone doesn’t have to have a fluid gender to be under the multigender spectrum, so having a static gender doesn’t rule it out. However, you need to identify with multiple genders to be multigender. At least 2. Perhaps a multigender blog such as @marvelousmultigenders can help?